SCORPIO

Vacation Guide for Scorpio

Your idea of a terrific vacation is one that gives you ultimate privacy in a beautiful, soothing setting. Pluto, your ruler, gives you a strong penchant for seclusion, and the fact that you are a water sign suggests you might enjoy a cottage at a beautiful seashore far from maddening crowds. Ideal places might include Prince Edward Island, the shoreline of Maine, Newport, Rhode Island, the Hawaiian Islands, an Adirondack camp, or the Florida Keys‹all places to read, fish, kick back and work hard on not working at all.

Or, you might consider a cruise to the Greek Islands or through the Mediterranean, if not on a private yacht, then on an exclusive cruise that will cater to your every need. You would see plenty of new locations when you stop in port, and yet have the elegance of being on the glistening, calm waters. You'd likely see more than one memorable sunsets and sunrises, and you'd enjoy being under a blanket of twinkling stars at night, especially if you bring your honey along.

Your ruler, Pluto blesses you with considerable energy but it's usually directed inward, making you competitive, intense, passionate and private. No telephone or TV where you are going? That is just fine with you. Room service, a well- stocked fridge (read: champagne and chocolates) and a portable CD player is all you'll need. To you, a vacation is an opportunity to drop out of civilization for a little while. In your everyday life, you are so engaged in all that you do, it is no wonder you need a complete rest when you finally get away. Your idea of bliss? Blend in and drop out.

Long walks on the beach and investigative journeys by foot or car are all you need to unwind. Some Scorpios look forward to vigorous sports while away, and if that's you, find a resort that offers a full range of options. (Hopefully that resort is positioned on a lake or at seaside.) If you do get involved with activities, dear Scorpio, it will probably be an early morning run, exploring on your bike, a game of tennis or snorkeling in the bay.

Unlike Libra, a sign that loves socializing on vacation, you hope that won't happen! Dressing up and making small talk with casual acquaintances is not your idea of a good time. You look for depth and substance, not casual chatter. If, on the other hand, you bring your sweetheart or spouse along, or meet a dear buddy you haven't seen in years, that's a different story‹you would be delighted to devote your best attention to that special person. Like Virgo, as a Scorpio you are discriminating with your time.

If you are in the mood to visit a city, consider New Orleans. It would be a perfect place for you with its sexy nighttime music and interesting sites. (Catch the large and famous cemetery‹New Orleans is based below sea level, so the dead have to be "buried" above land.) Take a tour of the home of Anne Rice, author of vampire novels. You'll love the Cajun cuisine too‹it's hot and spicy, just like you!

The Scorpio Man: October 23 - November 21
by Susan Miller
The Scorpion is determined, shrewd, protective, jealous, and powerful. It is a sign prone to obsession, and the Scorpio man is not nonchalant about anything, from his career to his love life. Symbolized by the phoenix rising from the ashes, this bird aptly suggests Scorpio's incredible ability to regenerate from seemingly disastrous situations. Much has been written about how sexy and mysterious Scorpio is. To him sex is very important, and it would be impossible for him to have a happy relationship without great sex. The Scorpio male is macho, a modern day 007: thrilling, strong, silent and handsome.

Your Challenge

One of the challenges of being in love with a Scorpio male is to get him to voice his innermost thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it is impossible know exactly what a Scorpio is thinking! He can be a temperamental, jealous lover, so watch your step. You will have to play by his rules or leave him. With this man, there are no shades of gray.

How To Handle Him

Still waters run deep, and you will find him fiercely loyal and deeply passionate. This Pluto ruled-lover would never dream of divulging details of your private life together to others, and expects the same from you. Woe to the woman who strays from his bed to another lover, for he will never forgive her. The Scorpion's sting is never used casually, only when he feels threatened to the core, for its sting kills not only the victim but the Scorpion itself. Scorpio will never suffer betrayal.

Things to do, gifts to buy

If you want to get your Scorpio lover a bit more relaxed and focused on you, try taking him to a small, cozy restaurant that serves solid manly food like a juicy steak and fries. Red wine will probably be his choice over champagne. The Scorpio male is no delicate gourmand. He would love a dark, rich chocolate mouse for dessert, if he likes sweets (some Scorpios do, some don't). Wear your little black dress or something in burgundy, his favorite color.

Your Scorpio will want you to be uninhibited. Don't become offended if he suggests viewing a sex video together. He does not see pornography as degrading to women, but as research and stimulus for new things to do. Since this sign rules law enforcement, crime and punishment, suggest he play policeman with you. Give him a gift box containing a blindfold and some handcuffs and you'll be all set. This man likes trying out a little light S&M playacting too so if you trust him, be cooperative if wants to put his naughty girl over his knee for a little spanking. This intense sign will insist on being the one in control, but surrendering to a Scorpio can be divine rapture.

The Scorpio Woman: October 23 - November 21
by Susan Miller


The Scorpio woman has great charm, allure, and inner strength, and is able to overcome most any obstacle in life. She comes across as self-confident and self-possessed and men are drawn to her for that reason. There is a mysterious quality about the Scorpio woman, because she is intensely private, discrete and secretive. Soon she will learn everything about you, but later you will realize that she hasn't given you many details about herself--that's Scorpio's natural reticence.

Finally, the operative word to best understand your Scorpio lover is "passion." One Scorpio once said to me that passion was the single most important ingredient in life, that is, to be passionate about one's loved ones, one's career, one's lifestyle, for without passion, what kind of life would we have in the end? Well said!

Your Challenge

Your Scorpio beauty is attracted to power, so if you have it, you are ahead of the game. Your other challenge will be that this lady has a mind of her own, so if you think you can tame her, forget it.

How To Handle Her

Her highly intuitive nature makes her a mind reader extraordinaire, so don't try to hide anything from her. If you are trying to impress her with power you don't have, her Pluto-ruled nature will sense it like a homing device. (Certainly you don't want to activate her seek and destroy mechanism.) In love and friendship, she is true-blue loyal and will expect the same from you. If you show her the slightest reason to distrust you, however, she will never forgive you. On the other hand, treat her well and she will reward you for the rest of your life. Home and family are regarded as sacred, and Scorpio will defend and support her man to the ends of the earth. Like Leo women, Scorpio women are into control, and with her magnetic, femme fatale powers, she will soon have the upper hand. After all, who could resist her famous Scorpion gaze, those memorable bedroom eyes?

Things To Do, Gifts To Buy

If you take your Scorpio beloved out for dinner, make it a private little dark rendezvous, overlooking water if possible or better yet, as a guest on a private yacht (preferably yours). The Scorpion woman will always be understated with her powerful sexuality--she doesn't need to flaunt it, it exudes naturally. In her dress, she is very careful about her accessories, buying only the finest shoes and handbags, and if she needs one, an elegant leather brief case. She knows these accessories punctuate her entire look and impart a feeling of true elegance. Get her quality things made out of leather (down, boy, not those things). If treating her to perfume, get her a modern oriental or something of musk and subtly sexual.

While the Scorpio woman is always a lady in public, she loves being her man's fantasy woman in the bedroom. Buy her some new lingerie in of her most flattering tones: maroon, eggplant or a black. Elegant French and Italian imported lingerie will impress her so buy her a demi-cup push up bra, tiny, sheer g-string bikini and elegant garter belt, complete with a pair of black seamed stockings. She may also be amused and aroused by a lavishly illustrated photography book by Helmut Newton or Doris Kloster. If you get lucky, she may want to experiment a little by lap dancing for you and you alone.

This sign rules detective work, so plan a mystery for her. She has a rich imagination and this should work whether you've known her a month or a decade. Tell her to meet you in the most elegant hotel bar in town. When you spot her, stand at the other end of the bar and have the waiter send over a glass of champagne and a note from you. By now the suggestive nature of your behavior will have the staff murmuring and staring and it will begin to turn her on tremendously. After the second or third drink, send her the key to your room in a small envelope. (Book their best suite ahead of time and stock it with roses and.) When she's pocketed the key, have her meet you by the elevator. Ride up alone, pushing her against the back wall of the elevator and tell her in great detail what you have planned. Show her the silk ribbons you've tucked into your breast pocket--Scorpio is intrigued by bondage. Although she will try her hardest not to show it, she will be aching for you to begin. She won't forget this mystery, and neither will you!

Scorpio Man

The Scorpio man is the 007 of the zodiac. He's fascinated with matters revolving around security, so cleaver protective gadgets for his home or car would be perfect choices. Buy him a radar detector or CD player for his car.

This sign also enjoys things made of leather, so choose a jacket, wallet, brief case, piece of luggage or new belt, Scorpio does not like trendy things but rather, classic, quality items that can be enjoyed for a long time. If you buy him a book, make it an international spy thriller or murder mystery. Since he enjoys his time at home, give him single malt scotch, a selection of the best New York T-bone steaks, or promise to make him chocolate mousse for Valentine's Day. Speaking of chocolate, the Scorpio man would also adore chocolate body paint that he has to paint and then nibble off you. Or, if he is your lover, buy him some sexy underwear and wrap it all up in clouds of tissue paper.

Scorpio Woman

The Scorpio woman likes things that are well-crafted with classic tailoring. Get her a smart, black suit she can wear in a number of ways, or a beautiful silk blouse or outfit in her lucky color: burgundy. Get her an English trench coat, an Italian umbrella, or a fashionable French leather handbag that she will have forever. If she works, give her a beautiful attache case of buttery, smooth black leather.

A thoughtful gift if she goes out often at night would be something to put in her purse to keep her safe, whether a special alarm, a light for her keys, an automatic garage opener or a purse-sized cellular phone. Or get her an intercom so she can hear what is going on in various rooms.

She is intensely private and highly individual and would adore personalized, engraved stationary from the finest stationers. Scorpio women like to collect sexy, lacy lingerie in a variety of colors, black to nude, deep purple to bright red. From push-up bras to garter belts to wear with seamed stockings and pumps, the Scorpio woman is a true femme fatal. A water sign, she could never have too much perfume (she wants the real stuff, not cologne.) Her signature perfume is musk or a haunting floral-oriental.

Scorpio: Hide and Seek Inspiration

Your sign is among the most intense of all the signs. Change is hard for Scorpio, the only fixed sign of the water signs. You are very determined and driven by goals, but while persistence is your forte, flexibility is not. Don't try to control too many elements in your life--recognize that some events will have a life of their own. Your water element makes you feel the impact of events deeply. Don't take setbacks personally.

Among your talents is a sharp and shrewd intuition which will help you navigate through turbulent waters. At times "facts" may not jibe with certain hunches you have and it will be hard for you to trust the hunches. Do it. You could even be psychic or prophetic, "feeling" events around you that are soon to happen. My late father was a Scorpio. He knew he was highly intuitive and relied on it frequently in making decisions. He strongly urged us, his children, to listen to our inner voices too. This was surprising because he lived in a time when men rarely saw themselves is intuitive or psychic--or least didn't admit to it. Men of his era preferred to profess their reliance on observable data. My father's instincts were always accurate, both in business and in his personal life. So, of course he was Scorpio!

Your sign, more than any other, has to occasionally take time for themselves and be alone. Your Pluto ruler can sometimes make you compulsive about your work, and if this describes you, you need to let up a little. Your Astrologer sees you on a very private estate, with high hedges for privacy, a lovely garden, and, most importantly, a view of the sea. (It's good to dream!) Remember, water is truly vital to water signs, and it will be harder to recover your sense of purpose without being near water. So go to the seashore, a lake, or a spot with a river view to center yourself. Turn on the answering machine; leave your cellular at home.

Mediation and prayer are good for Scorpio. One Scorpio I know is Jewish but loved to accompany his woman friend to Mass, for he found the rhythm of the prayers and music profoundly peaceful. For this man, Mass was an ideal place to think privately. There was never any question he would remain devoutly Jewish. This makes perfect sense because Scorpio is a deeply spiritual sign, and often has an understanding and interest in other religions. Because their sign rules the 8th house of birth-death cycles, Scorpios are closer to life's beginnings and endings.

Slow, deliberate exercise such as yoga or t'ai chi would be helpful to you, as well as any solitary activity, like running (along the water would be perfect), bike riding, speed walking, or lifting weights. Yours is a sign which likes to compete with themselves rather than others, always reaching for your personal best.

Quiet games of contemplation and skill would be ideal for you too. Play chess or poker (good games of strategy for discrete Scorpio) with a friend who can throw you a challenge. You like mystery novels too. Spy stories where the fate of the world hinges on the actions of one individual will relax you, and provide you with a hero you can identify with!

One good way to slow down is by using personal rituals, something your fixed, water nature responds to. By ritual I don't mean an activity connected to religion but one which you create spontaneously to punctuate an event, whether it be happy or sad. Whether you lost a pet, got fired, won a contest of skill, or want to ask your sweetheart to marry you, make a little special event out of it. Rituals help us understand the benchmarks of our lives and helps us over the transom from one plane to another. As a Scorpio, your still waters go deep. The ritual could be a little one (writing down your feelings about a broken relationship and then burning what you wrote with all the love letters you had saved) or a bigger one (planning a funeral for your pet). To profess your love to your sweetheart, you might plan an evening of serious lovemaking, complete with new bed linens, fresh flowers, candlelight and so forth. Set the date in advance as well as the time, place and schedule (for example, dinner out first, then dancing, then home . . . ). Rituals are pause buttons which help separate out the mundane from what truly matters. They can help you relax and become more in sync with your life.

A departing word for you, Scorpio. Try not to shut out loved ones. A Scorpio who is feeling troubled is nearly impossible to read. When stress hits, you will seem a million miles away to your family and friends. While initially you will feel depleted by everyday life, including the mere conversation, those around will want to help you by giving you their perspective on your plight. Sometimes Scorpios will remain isolated within themselves too long, as tension makes them throw up barriers in self-protection. Because you won't be getting any input from others, your perspective can become distorted. Recognize that this can happen to you. Your need for physical affection is important, and will reaffirm your self-worth, but your lover will hesitate to reach out to you if you shut him or her out. Open up a little, see how things go. Accept and give physical love.